I’ve taken two weeks off (how therapeutic of me) since my BFN of last cycle. There is a lot to come but I’m not quite ready to put it all out on text…. in the meantime, some advice that I mustered up today:
I believe that the anxiety is there to help us even though it seems like the worst part of it all. The fear is a shield for the love that we want to feel so much. I think it keeps us just enough on the safe side of this whole process so that when things go unexpectedly, we can keep going and when things go well, we can breathe, even if it’s only for a minute. I learned an exercise that replaces “what if” with “what is.” You look at what’s happening right in that moment and concentrate on that. It’s hard but it helps keep some of the fear and anxiety from getting enormous. There are no words that can make you feel better, but hopefully remembering that I/we have your back(s) can offer some relief, even if it’s only for a minute .
I wish I could sometimes remember my own advice……. until that time comes, I’ll refer back to the blog….